By Dr. Jamie Huysman
LCSW, CFT

June is Men’s Health Month.

Sadly, when it comes to taking care of ourselves, the truth is, most men procrastinate. We put off yearly check-ups and suggested screenings. We’re busy. We’ll get to it when we can. We have more important things to do. We may know that something is not right, but we minimize the warning signs and deny any thought that something might be wrong. Even chronic red flags don’t raise an alarm; it’s not that serious. We secretly hope that It’ll pass. I’m a man, yes, I am.

It’s baffling that so many of us are so suborn when it comes to our physical health. Certainly, we are not immune nor are we invincible. Some of this can be attributed to generational differences. Do some of us still think that illness is a sign of weakness? If so, we’d better think again and take some preventative measures.

Prevention is common sense with a purpose. Prevention is the touchstone of 21 st century medicine. It has never been more important to self-advocate for our own health care.

In general, doctors should simply not be held up to the god-like status they were once afforded.

Your primary care doctor is your personal health partner, your professional caregiver; your first line of defense when it comes to your personal health.

Medical advancements are being made all the time, but most of us will not have access to cutting edge procedures and treatments until they become standardized, common protocols.

This can take years. The ability to pay for and the cost of such services are also a stumbling block.

The top causes of death among adult men in the U.S. are heart disease, cancer, unintentional injuries, chronic lower respiratory disease and stroke, according to the Centers for Disease

Control and Prevention. Many of us may be genetically predisposed to these conditions which may warrant the need to be check for more often than those without family histories. The good news is that making a few lifestyle changes can significantly lower your risk of these common killers. Suggested measures include quitting smoking and avoiding secondhand smoke, eating a healthy diet, maintaining a healthy weight, any form of exercise, limiting alcohol intake, and managing stress.

The truth is that when we are healthy we live longer. Good health allows us to enjoy life and participate in activities with family and friends, see more branches added to the family tree.

Start today! Schedule that annual checkup with your primary care doctor, get screened for possible threats to your health and wellbeing. Many hospitals and clinics offer these during the month of June. When conditions are caught and treated early, our chances are much improved to overcome the disorder and side effects of treatment and medications.

The health decisions we make today can impact us as soon as tomorrow. Do it for your family, do it for you; to borrow a popular slogan, just do it.

Dr. Jamie co-authored the acclaimed Take Your Oxygen First: Protecting Your Health & Happiness While Caring for a Loved One with Memory Loss and was featured in The 100 Mile Walk: A Father and Son on a Quest to Find the Essence of Leadership, Voices of Caregiving and Voices of Alcoholism. Dr. Huysman writes for Caregiver SOS, Florida MD and Today’s Caregiver magazines and blogs on PsychologyToday.com.

By Carol Zernial
WellMed Charitable Foundation Executive Director

The movie “Wonder Woman” is all the buzz these days. (Spoiler alert on the major themes of the film.) Diana Prince, Wonder Woman, is like many of us. Her life was pretty perfect – it doesn’t hurt that she is the daughter of Zeus and lived on Paradise Island with strong women to support her. When she discovers the perils facing the outside world in the form of World War I, she wonders who she would be if she didn’t answer the call for help. We all hear that call. Like so many of us caregivers, she jumped in naively believing that she could fix everything.

Caregivers / Wonder Woman have the best of intentions. We just want to help. But the complexity of life hits us. Some people deserve help, but perhaps not everyone. Many people are caring for relatives who were abusive, dysfunctional, absent, overbearing and who give nothing.

Do they deserve the sacrifices made on their behalf to care for them?

In the movie, Diana comes to realize that people are flawed and imperfect. But each of them embodies the full spectrum of humanity, good and bad. She chooses to help mankind realize their potential and give them their best chance of living a good life.

Our caregiving journey is much like this. We often get into caregiving without giving it much serious thought of where it will take us. Along the way, we realize how overwhelming this experience can be. We may be surprised about some of the things we find out about our loved ones who we thought we knew. It is not all rainbows and butterflies. But we don’t give up.

We are changed by the caregiving experience. We lose some of our innocence about people and institutions we thought we could rely on like medicine, hospitals and caring professionals. We can’t necessarily save the person we’re caring for no matter how hard we try. We experience loss, grief, and so many other emotions.

Like Wonder Woman, we can’t go back to our old lives. We may retreat to things we know and that bring us comfort.

Wonder is a key ingredient to caregiving. Wondering what we should do. Being in awe of the love we feel for our parents, spouse or children. Life is unscripted and it unfolds before us – surprising us. We are amazed at the strengths we find insides ourselves, and how much we can bear. At the end of the day, women (and men) wonder how they did it – and many shake their heads knowing they would do it all again if they heard the call for help.

WellMed Charitable Foundation Executive Director Carol Zernial is a noted gerontologist, radio show host, and Chair of the National Council on Aging. The non-profit WellMed Charitable Foundation focuses on complimentary programs impacting seniors and family caregivers, including weekly telephone learning sessions, evidence-based classes on stress reduction and more. Find out more at www.CaregiverSOS.org or toll-free at 1-866-390-6491